It's been a while since I last updated my blog. Been quite busy with editing events pictures. Nowadays , social networking became the major part in create a personal profile, add other users as friends, and exchange messages. Moreover nowadays we can easily said that besides what I mentioned above, it also plays crucial part for some individuals to find their soul-mate through this social networking site called 'Facebook'. Some of them might succeed in their mission but many ended up with major disappointment and depression. For the past few weeks, I heard lots of news regarding some negative incident that happened due to misuse of this social network site. Sadly, a few weeks ago, a teenage girl who is only 14 years old had been raped by a group of teenagers. As what the report said, that the girl trusted a guy who she add a friend through facebook, then she fall in love with him instantly which led her to plan a date with him. But the date turned out to be a nightmare for her where her boyfriend betrayed her by inviting some of his friends to join him in raping her. She is only 14 and for sure she doesn't deserve this. Nowadays, Facebook already clarified as a 'compulsory' site for internet users, if not people will labelled you as outdated. This was the feedback I got from most of my primary students or even some of my secondary tuition students. Even adults also face share the same kind of perception. Globally Facebook even banned in some workplaces to prevent employees wasting their time on the site. Even me myself felt the same after 2 years of became the frequent user of this site, I felt that it was nothing but wasting your time most of the time. I had lost my interest in watching movies, documentaries, sports due to spending most of the time using Facebook. Last time, I even got interest in writing but now rather than writing I opt to social networking which I felt more entertaining. Facebook nowadays, from what I observe became even a tool for mocking others, even among friends in the name of blurting out our feelings rather thinking bout others feeling as well. Even I heard there were some cases of separation among friends, relatives, couples or even some divorce cases due to Facebook. For some, Facebook also became a good marketing strategy for certain business or corporates where users got the chance to promote their product, or whatever they do for their living to attract consumers. In addition, Facebook also gives Political Impact for a country or nation whereas Politician used it to convey his messages to his people, or even to mock other politicians or political parties.
What make me really started to spend less time on Facebook when they were lots of cyber-stalkers where they mainly use Facebook for false accusations, monitoring, making threats, identity theft, damage to data or equipment, the solicitation of minors for sex, or gathering information in order to harass.Even recently I found 2 suspicious profile where for the past 2 years, they only had not even more than 3 friends. All these 2 years, all their recent activity were commenting on my photos, links, status or whatsoever regarding me.
Another problem that even myself face recently was where they might be certain individual where they use Facebook to gather information about you and later they might approached us as they knew us very well. It’s not wrong of getting new friends through facebook but we must really understand our real intentions of doing so. Even me, myself also having plenty of facebook friends where I even had met them and still keep in touch with them till now. Even some of the became close friend of mine. By being friend like this, I could share so many experience with them and vice versa and even some of them help me in giving opinions, assistance or even being my well-wishers. But sadly, some of individuals use this facebook with other intentions where they more interested in you to have relationship more than being a friend. If it’s sincere, then should be no problem with that but what happened was most of the cases from what I heard ended once the cyber stalkers get what they really want from his victim. I wonder some time when some individuals whom you even might don’t know or even met approached yourself by saying they knew you or observing you for a long time and really interested in being a friend with you. After a while, they will call you with lovely words like ‘dear’, ‘darling’, ‘sayang’ and so on. Most of the victims were youngsters especially girls. How come they really trust a stranger where sometime people close to us also we not intended to do so. Even I face these kind of problem recently where there were some individual approached me with this kind of strategy even when they knew that I’m a married person. I’m not saying that their intention was wrong as after all we all are humans with emotions and I might have experienced it too in the future, who knows. But for me the approach was wrong as at first you need to know that person deeply before justifying your intentions. It is not like just admiring someone by looking at their profile pic or photos. I do met some of my facebook friend, and I only did that after I really knew about them and If I want to meet them also I will choose the right place where lots of people moving around.
Cyber stalking is one thing. Barging into someone's privacy is another. Come to think about it, cyber stalking and invading one's privacy goes hand in hand. A person who is engaged in cyber stalking tends to know everything about a person and uses it first hand. A lot of a user's personal information is so accessible that almost everyone, even those who know you but you don't know of, can view it.
Besides that, I felt that Facebook can be very addictive for its members. Once you stay connected with friends, you will realize how often you login for another chat and discover what other members are doing. Some people know the drawbacks of Facebook but cannot help staying connected with old friends who they haven’t seen in years. All this will certainly make you addicted to Facebook and will stop you from deleting your account. Many hours may also pass and you could have done something more important than using Facebook. I really discovered this once I analyzed back with what I gain from using facebook most of my time for the past 2 years. In this 2 years of using this facebook, I realized that I had spent less time in hanging out friends and have some late night 'chaaiya' at nasi kandar, watch interesting movies at cinema or interesting programmes @ television, lack of reading, and even got less time in learning photography and editing techniques. I really hope that, after this I will gain back what I lost and could minimal my usage or living virtually most of the time through this 'FaceBook'. I'd rather choose / hope to write more in my blog after this as at least it could enhance my writing skills rather than replying @ the chat room without gaining anything valuable. Even I had advised my pupils to spend their evening with sports or hang out with their real friends rather than their 'virtual' friends. Recently, when I went to a recreational park around 5 pm with my nephew, I found out that there were lots of elderly people who enjoying their evening strolling and some couples 'date'. Veru hard to see youngsters or teenagers at the park doing exercise or hang out with friends, and when I ask my students what they will do in the evenings, they said most of them rather enjoying themselves in cyber-cafes chatting in the facebook than sweating themselves by being physically active.
So, I've decided that my usage of this social network should be limited and spending more time on other valuable stuff. Of course, I will be online whenever I'm free but it will be not my priority or the first preference as it will be a subject only if I got nothing to do with other options. I really hope that I could update my blog more frequent and enhance my writing skills or even I planned to read a lot and even started to read some autobiographies of great human beings and upgrading my literature knowledge by working out to do some adaptation based on that. I will use facebook as a medium to share everything I had done with my interest, sharing photos and whatever I learn but as I said earlier, it will be no longer my first preference.
Ok guys, thats all for now, hope to see u guys more often after this
Lots of of love, respect and regards,
jayG'z TONE
a.k.a
JAYA GOBEE ARUMUGAM
