Hye folks,
Wednesday, as usual was really busy at school today as to teach how to play badminton and after that my action song competition going on as well. Everything as planned and happy to see the good progress of my selected students for action song competition this year.
Today's experience will be based on an incident happened when I was having my lunch. After school around 3pm I decided to have 'Rojak' and Puer Chinese Tea as my lunch. It doesnt sound like lunch isn't? While I was enjoying the marvellous 'Rojak Wazai', I saw three indians came to the stall and sat a table nearby and ordered 'Bah Ku Teh' at different hawker stall. The one took the order was an old indian lady. Suddenly, once their ordered meals arrived to their table, one of the person, shouted loudly to the indian lady. He said the food ordered was not according to his expectations and asked the lady to take back and canceled the order.The old lady said she thought she was right and that was what he ordered but this indian guy doesnt want to tolerate at all even tough his other two friends ready to eat what was provided. He yells at the lady saying that if she was unsure about the order, she should come and asked again without acting too smart and made her own decision. When she brought back the rejected food to the hawker or the owner of the stall, he shouted back to the lady and saying that she was really stupid and doesnt hear it properly the orders. More worst he asked the lady to responsible for the food by saying "you makanlah sendiri, order pun tak pandai ambik, susah la ini macam punya kerja". While that incident happened, I could see one of the indian guy whispered to his friend telling that , just accept the food to the one who rejected the food. But that indian guy replied back, its was not his intention to reject that food but he wants to punished her for that she wont repeat the same mistake. Oh My God !!!! The first came out in my mind was there are lots of people out there trying to be the god or almighty to punish people !!!! For god sake, I really can't believe those situation happened in front of my eyes, thank god I finished my 'rojak' that time, if not I can't really digest the food after witnessed these kind of act by so-called human. Where is the humanity? Where are we heading for and what are we really seeking in this life? Are humans nowadays doesn't really heard or know the meaning of 'forgiveness', 'acceptance' and 'appreciation'? These are three characters that they should have in this situation.
FORGIVENESS
In this incident, I found out the Indian waiter had already ask for forgiveness many times to the customer but he refused it and even made the situation more worst. I dont think it was the biggest crime on earth. The Indian waiter might going through the bad time today due to her karma and by scolding her and refused to forgive her will make the customer take part in her karma as well. So, it was like what you give, you get back, sooner or later oe even on that moment. Trust me or not, I saw another incident happened to that Indian customer just a while after he scold the old lady. After he finished his meal, he got called from his employee or someone doing business with him, I guess. I dont have any idea, what he was talking with the one called him, but as he was talking loudly (his habit I guess), I can heard that, he was convincing someone, the conersation goes like this , "I will be there in 15 minutes, I'm really sorry as I really forgot, Ok, ok will come there now". After that he and his mates, left the place and I was thinking about this incident again and again. 15 to 20 minutes ago, he was scolding someone and refused to forgive her and 15 minutes later, he might get scolded and ask for forgiveness. Life is a complete circle isn't? Sometime there will be time you at the top and in a second you fall down to the bottom. How will be his feelings if someone that he was seeking for forgiveness just now did the same as he did. We should understand that all of us are humans and everybody has the same kind of feelings and emotions. There are no such thing that you are right or wrong here, when the people seek apologies from you, it's a sin for not accepting that and for sure indirectly you will be in their karma as well. I'm not teaching or advising here, Im talking based on my experience as well as I also felt and gone through the situation as the old lady. I really can't describe the feeling when people ignored or refused to accept your apologies even when you are not the entire cause of situation especially when it involved the one you love the most. Then I recalled back all my old memories and yes, I did the same mistake before in my life where I did refused to ask or received forgiveness and indirectly I got involved in that karma and get the payback through that incident. Remember,'There is no love without forgiveness and there is no forgiveness without love" and 'The final form of love is forgiveness.
ACCEPTANCE
Is that very hard to accept things that you never expected? Its your right to get what you want but dont tell that you will whatever you want in this life without single disappointment ever? He might not get the food that he wants but why not he just satisfied what he got and accept it with full heart. He should realized it because while he was eating the food and I was having my meals as well another incident happened. There was a beggar and he is really famous in Nibong Tebal here as '10 cent beggar'. He only asked '10 cent' and thats enough from him and that was his acceptance and looked like he was really happy with that. He did asked the money to that guy and also myself, both of us did our 10 cent contribution and with the feeling of acceptance, the beggar leave the place happily. If a beggar could be so happy in accepting 10 cent from everyone why not we as a human accept what we have at this moment with full heart and great fullness. Lets say, you were really hungry and at the middle of an island without any food, what will you do as u need at least water to save you from dehydration. You will definitely to drink the sea water even tough it will be damn salty rather than die because of dehydration right? Thats what we called it as acceptance here, just accept what you get rather than complaining all the time.Within Christian beliefs acceptance is characterized as forgiveness.
APPRECIATION
Once the Indian customer got the right meals that he was expecting eagerly from the waiter, he never appreciates that moment or even the waiter who got scolded by him and his employee by the word 'THANK YOU'. Because of his unwillingness in forgiving him and accepting what he get, the waiter might get punishment by cutting her salary or even got sacked, who knows but he never cares about that as he was very eager to eat what he wants and atleast as a human, appreciate the moment where you got what you expected after so many obstacles by two words 'THANK YOU' to the waiter. Why the word 'THANK YOU' important here because you may solve some dissatisfaction by just uttering these two syllable words. The waiter got scolded by the customer and his employee just for his small mistake. On that moment he definitely felt really disappointed and going through some hard moments and thinking of giving up his job. When finally we appreciate his effort, at least he might be thinking that people really appreciate him even tough he was scolded before and also might analyze his mistake rationally and motivated to not repeat the mistake again.
Im really sorry if I hurt anyone here. Im not perfect and not eligible to advice anyone here. It was just a sharing and what I really learnt from this incident. It's purely to my self development and if u guys got something here, it will be double joy from me. So my spiritual guru for me today was the waiter and that Indian customer for taught me such a great lesson today.
Before I leave you guys let me share with all of you with some famous quotes about FORGIVENESS, APPRECIATION and APPRECIATION.
“There is no such thing as absolute value in this world. You can only estimate what a thing is worth to you.”“Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.”
Lots of of love, respect and regards,
jayG'z TONE
a.k.a
JAYA GOBEE ARUMUGAM
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